April 18, 2010
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Friends to Acquaintance
J and I met up with a mutual friend the other night for dinner. It was a chance for us to get together after a few months of sporadic contact last year. He invited us over to see his new condo. It’s a very nice loft conversion building with exposed bricks, ducts, high ceilings and polished concrete floors. He had a monster TV set with along with a neat looking PC. Dinner was fun and we all ate very well.
While it was good to see him again, I just got the sense the the friendship is beginning to wane. He has his own set of friends and interests. Aside from some casual chit chat – I couldn’t find anything in common anymore with him. I guess on the friendship scale – he’s gone down from friend to acquaintance. Oh well… such is life.
It’s strange but I have more in common with my long time Xanga friends than I do with real friends.
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Funny, I feel the same about some of my Xanga and Facebook friends. I dont even care to hang out with my face to face friends so much. My closest friends live on the other side of the planet. sigh,
Somewhere I learned that if we have 5 friends we are lucky. We may have tons of acquaintances.
We all just have more and more different life paths as we grow older. Takes more work to keep old friendships together.
It’s sad when friendships wane but I think some friendships really do have their own lifecycle that you can’t fight.
@macphoto - Xanga friends rock!
@Fatcat723 - I heard the same saying, but it was just one or two close friends.
@Roadlesstaken - Yeah, it does take a lot of work to maintain a friendship. Everyone is just so busy nowadays.
@TheCheshireGrins - I agree – sometimes a long term friendship probably wasn’t meant to be.
guess everyone has their different life-stages
whats interesting is how xanga is somehow a constant.
I wonder how long you have known J?
Very true, Matt. Was just having dinner in Hong Kong with a variety of different friends, all of whom I’ve known for about ten to nearly twenty years. While it is nice to see all of them, there are some with whom there is still quite a connection and others where the connection doesn’t feel very strong anymore. Same thing when we were in New York the last two times.
@TheCheshireGrins - I agree that friendships have their own life cycle and purpose; some are enduring and others are merely for the short term.
Yep…friendships evolve and change just like relationships
it is so true….and friendship comes and goes…and some might eventually light up again…..after a long pause….just that interesting….
that’s what i’ve been thinking about old highschool friends. where have they gone now? most recent moments, i can no longer connect neither do they.
I feel the same with some of my friends as well.
But I don’t feel closer to you vs. them since I never met you =P
It is absolutely true Matt. It is like going home after a hiatus of several years. While the home and the people are the same, it is yet different on many scales and levels. Similarly, friendship goes through this metamorphosis.
My xanga friends are just so wonderful. I love them a lot.
sadly, same here.
yeah fully agree!!! ya friendship changes…
I wonder if perhaps some friends are meant to be with us for just a little while, perhaps to serve a special purpose in our lives, then move on.