July 8, 2014

  • The Forgotten Ones

    A few months ago, I was on the street car when this Chinese woman got on.  She was probably in her late 50s to early 60s.  Even though it was spring, she still wore a long winter jacket.  I watched as she made her way down the streetcar.  People parted and let her through the narrow aisle.  She sat down in seat in front of me.  Her graying hair was coarse and unruly.  She started to talk to herself in Cantonese.  I couldn’t really make out what she was saying except I knew she was upset.  People stared at her.

    I felt sorry for her and didn’t know what to do. I think she knew people were watching her but she couldn’t help it.  She grew quiet and then would start again.  She stared out the window and continued her solitary conversation.  I wonder if heart ever felt happiness and contentment.  Did she have enough to eat?  Did she have enough to get by?  I departed at my stop but her image still haunts me and every so often she pries her way back into my consciousness.  It was another recent incident that made me think of her.

    I was walking to the grocery store the and noticed all the traffic beside me was stopped.  I was curious what was causing the standstill.  Up ahead a street car was stopped at a streetcar stop and the doors were opened.  But no one was entering or leaving.  Eventually an elderly man was helped down by another man.  As they walked towards the sidewalk, I could hear the younger man say “Do you need to go to the hospital?  You almost passed out.”   The younger man waved at the streetcar driver and the streetcar moved on.

    The elderly man was average height, skinny and unshaven.  His clothes were old and well worn.  “Do you want an ambulance?” the younger man asked as he led the elderly man into the streetcar shelter.  I walked past them, paused and looked back.  “Just sit here and I’ll call an ambulance for you.”  I asked the guy if he needed to call 911.  He said yes and asked if I had a phone.  I nodded and called 911.  The other guy said he had to leave.  I didn’t really want to be alone with this elderly guy.  But the 911 operator stayed on the phone with me until the ambulance came.  The guy didn’t pass out. But he stood up despite me telling him to sit down.  He reached into his pants and said he had to pee.  I cringed.  People were walking by, no one had a clue what was going on.  He peed in his pants and left a puddle by his feet.  It slowly trickled down to the road.

    He kept asking me if the ambulance was coming.  I told him it was just a short distance away.  I didn’t smell any alcohol on his breath.  But he wasn’t alert.  To my relief, the ambulance came within 5 minutes.  I told the paramedic what I knew and warned them about the urine.  She smiled and said they’ll look after him.  Nothing fazes these guys.

    I don’t know why I wrote about these two people.  They are part of forgotten ones in our city.  We avoid them if possible (I sometimes do).  But deep down inside, I fear, bizarre as it may sound, I’ll become one of them.

     

Comments (9)

  • Such a sad post. Wonder if these two different people had any family of their own. I fear for such an end too. God help us all in a country where there is no extended loving family who would care. Blessings to you Matt. So sweet of you to stop and help the elder gentleman. You’ve done your good deed for the year, and now let the karma surround you.

    • I guess it was a good deed in some ways. I know I would feel guilty if I walked away even though I could tell myself it’s not really my business.

  • These two must remind you of your dad and all you did for him. It’s sad that they don’t have a Matt to care for them, but nice that you were able to stop and help the one elderly man!

  • I think, in some way, we will all become one of them…for even people who are surrounded by others, can still feel very alone…especially in times of pain for crisis.

    You were very kind to notice these people, Matt…to think about them, wonder about them, care for them, and share them with us. There are people in every city who need someone to notice them, believe in their value, etc. We must all become more aware and more compassionate.

    All it takes is one person to care, to help…and it can literally be lifesaving…not only physically, but emotionally.

    (((HUGS)))

    • Thank you and hugs back to you too. I guess if we each do our part to help, maybe it’ll come back to us eventually.

  • they seem to be the forgotten ones. knowing how much your family loves you, you won’t end up like them. i highly doubt it.

  • BIG HUGS to you, matt.

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