January 1, 2008

  • New Year's Eve dinner was a small family affair at my bf's place.  His sister was visiting with the kids and he made hot pot.  This time the baby didn't want anything to do with me.  I was crushed.    Actually he did warm up a bit towards the end.  I was taking pictures of everyone and he would come over and check himself out on the small LCD of my camera.  It was fun watching my bf feed him some oranges.  The baby stood on his tip toes, fingers clutching the island so he could see the oranges.  The oranges were still cold from being in the refrigerator.  The baby would make a funny face and spit it out.  So my bf had to tell him to wait for  awhile.  My bf also made orange / grapefruit juice for the other kids.  They were just mesmerized by the juicer which I found amusing.  I like these domestic, family moments with children.  Every so often, I just need to be with kids. 

    On a more sombre note, my dad is out of town visiting his younger sister.  She's not doing well and I heard she's very frail now.  I was startled when I found out she's less than 80 lbs now.  My brother took some time out from his schedule to accompany my dad.  I'm not sure how well my dad will handle this trip.  I'm sure this will be the last time he'll visit his sister.  My dad's family isn't that close and aside from Christmas and birthdays, they don't usually call or visit.  A lot of this is due to a rift in the family decades ago.  Over time, this has healed somewhat but I think the damage was already done.  

    Sometimes I wonder if my relationship with my brother and sister will be over time.  We're not exactly very close but we do help each other out and are supportive of each other.  But we don't exactly sit down and talk about our dreams, relationships etc...  One of my cousins was surprised when I told him I don't exactly my siblings.  But at least we're not bickering and arguing with each other. 


Comments (7)

  • I have the same relationship with my sister
    I don't  talk to her about my problems...
    but I guess it's cuz we never lived with each other for a long time
    more than a decade

  • Relationships with siblings are an interesting thing.  They are people whom we've had no choice in having in our lives and they're not necessarily people who have really cared for us like our parents. 

    Maybe sometimes you are closer to them and other times further apart and maybe that changes over the years.  You're right, though: at least you're not arguing with each other.  And as they have their children, those family ties will be important to maintain.

  • I feel we have two families - the natural or birth family and our chosen family. With each there is a different relationship and most often different ways of showing love and concern. Thoughtful post, Matt.

  • Happy New Year!!!!
    You sound like having a very warm family new year eve...
    that's wonderful.....

  • i'm pretty close to my sister now, although we used to fight a lot as siblings tend to do when we were younger. 

    my grandpa's in the hospital right now...  he's not doing so great; he had to have some surgery done the day of new years eve :-/

  • them juicers used to mesmerize me as a kid too! hope your aunt gains more strength. happy new year matty!

    jonas

  • RYC: I totally agree with you. I don't know is part of my vocabulary. The problem is that when you teach for some reason the expectations are higher and it takes more to use the phrase.

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