March 7, 2013
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Turn turn turn
I’ve whined a lot about work. I don’t have my manager’s backing and from what I can tell, he doesn’t trust me anymore. I should have planned my exit strategy earlier and not try to stick it out. There’s a difference in not giving up and walking away from a deteriorating situation. When I leave I want to do it on my terms and hopefully in a positive manner. I’m tired of the long hours. I don’t want to wake up nervous about what the day will be like.
When I pray at night (on those nights when I feel weak), I pray for the strength to see me through this and to help me find my way.
Thanks to all of you who have given me words of comfort, encouragement and support.
Comments (20)
Everybody always says that it’s better to leave on one’s own terms or to look for a new job while one still is in the old one. I am not so sure about this anymore. Being in an active employment – no matter how crappy it is – gives most people a sense of security and safety which they don’t want to jeopardize. My point, if there really is one, is to not be afraid. It will all work itself out.
@beowulf222 - the job pays my bills and it is hard to look for another job at the same time. Plus, I think I want something different (not in IT). You’re right about being afraid. Sometimes fear can paralyze us.
I fear leaving something I know for something I don’t know. So I stay with the bad I know. I have decided move and try to something new. Scared, sure I am. I am unsure even though I have confidence in myself and ky abilities. I will hang on to the job I have to pay the bills. That I cannot afford to give up – income. Hang in there, Matt. Look around but stay in the secure place until you have another place to anchor.
It sounds like you’re in a tough position at the moment and I’m sorry to hear that you are
Hugs.
I hope that your manager sees the enormous amount you’ve done for the company. I don’t understand how he could have changed his view of you from trust to not ‘backing’ you. It doesn’t make sense.
I do hope the relationship with you and your boss turns for the better & then you can get end of good terms.
In the end, I’m sure you’ll look out for you. And I think talking about it with J and close friends will make it feel less like you’re doing it all alone.
The fact that you’ve decided to do this shows a great deal of strength. Good luck!
Btw, nice song.
Matt, if they let you go, (God forbid), then they should have an excellent severance pay for at least a year. During that time you can look for a different job with peace of mind.
Why is it difficult to look for another job while you are still at this one that sucks out your peace of mind? Put feelers out and give a couple of interviews on line. You have been suffering for so long it seems. May be your manager will be let go! Wouldn’t that be a hoot! Wish you all the best love.
Giving you a mini, hope it’s not the gray that I’ve been getting these past three days or so.
Oh I forgot~ I absolutely love that song. It is one of my most favorites.
In the mid 2000s, I was extremely distressed by things at work, and I dreaded going there. But eventually it mellowed out, and when our supervisor was swapped in the late 2000s, things became pleasant again. I don’t often find my job interesting, but it pays well and has good benefits, and I’d be hard pressed to find another like it. I did look at another position within the same agency, but when my job application was swallowed by the online application system, I didn’t bother trying again.
I would just start looking for another job, period. No use waiting.
just hold on Matt. i’ve been there – just hold on and make sure you keep in touch with your contacts and headhunters.
Hang in there. Told you, you need a break.
Good luck with it all.
Matt, work ought to be the silly, inconsquential thing we do between blogging … make that your starting point and perhaps your approach (and decision) may morph. Despite others above, I would counsel not holding on but letting go
Hi, long time! Welcome back and thanks for visiting my site again! God bless, ~ Pete
“Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4
Matt, sounds like it’s about time to look around for new opportunities. But also at the same time I would maintain an open ended dialogue with the manager, try to find out where he/she is coming from. Anyway, there’s really no point of being stressed out from work month after month, I hope you’ll land on something new soon!
I am also looking for an exit strategy
Good luck!
@Fatcat723 - thanks for the advice Rob. It’s really difficult because of the very long hours and mental stress.
@stepaside_loser - unfortunately the business culture here is not what you’ve done over the years, it’s what have you done yesterday. When people’s job are on the line and the business pressures are high, sometimes it’s easier to blame others. The corporate world can be pretty brutal. I appreciate the hug Andrew, J has been supportive and giving me encouragement. I also vent here which helps.
@nov_way - thank you, appreciate the nice words.
@ZSA_MD - it’s not easy to take time off from work during the day to go for interviews etc… I’m usually in back to back meetings and a lot of them go late into the evening. If they do give some severance (usually the minimum required by law), it’ll be better than nothing. At least I’ll have more time to spend with my dad. The mini works Zakiah – thank you, I’m also glad you liked the song.
@Roadkill_Spatula - I feel exactly the same way. After breakfast, I really dread going to work … every email seems to be a land mine.
@stevew918 - maybe I should work for you Steve, do you need an anonymous assistant?
@l0311879l - thanks Michael, I’ll do that.
@ccrider17 - thank you.
@AppsScraps - you have the right attitude about work Brent. I know if I move anywhere, I would make a lot less money but I would probably be happier.
@Evangelist_Guy - you’re welcome Pete.
@CurryPuffy - I hope so too Gary, it has been very difficult lately.
@Wangium - thanks Jason, I hope our exit strategy will work!
BIG hugs, matt.
Unfortunately I’ve been in situations like that so I can relate. Just do what you gotta do, and keep on hangin’ on …
@rudyhou - thanks Rudy.
@n_e_i_l - I’m going to hang on and keep looking, thanks.