February 7, 2011
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Friends
I was watching reruns of the comedy show 2 and a Half Men one night. In one episode, Charlie Sheen has a few of his friends over for an evening of scotch, cigar and conversation. That scene (see below) caught my eye. It’s really suppose to be a men’s support group. I think I would enjoy that feeling of camaraderie, fellowship & friendship reinforced with scotch and a nice Cuban cigar. There’s something about just hanging out with guys where I can just sit back, listen, be supportive, let loose with some crude jokes every so often and just be there for others. I’d probably switch the Cuban cigar with something else though since I don’t smoke. But I do like the smell of cigars and pipe tobacco.
click here for the episode (the video embed code was disabled)
Now I’m not sure why I’m really writing this. Maybe I’m just trying to expand my circle of friends. It’s a tiny circle right now and I actually feel I have more friends in Xanga than I do in real life. I have a friend from school that I see every so often. He’ll give me a shout when he flies out here on business. Everytime we meet up, we just hit it off again. But his “territory” has changed these past couple of years. I only found out by accident that he and his family recently moved to the US. So it’ll be a bit more challenging rekindling that friendship. I think the bigger challenge is to develop new and lasting friendships.
Anyone care for some Scotch?
Comments (28)
I would, but I’m probably allergic to Scotch haha. I’ll have some conversations though.
let’s do it. can we mix in some gay porn?
Are you hinting a possible Toronto Xanga meet in a pub?
I’m always up for scotch and cigar for a Toronto meet up, just need you to send out the invite to all eligible Xangans!
@Roadlesstaken - conversation works for me too.
@wutuwaitn4 - lol… I hope there’s room in the agenda.
@stevew918 - hahaha… no, you sure have an active imagination.
@CurryPuffy - that Steve… planting hints in everyone’s minds. lol…
I like the smell of cigars but never smoked one!
Count me in on that social get together!
Too bad I am so very far away =(
Love scotch, whiskey, bourbon, cognacs. Sounds like you should pay me a visit!
I once read that our circle of friends was like the circles that surround a stone when dropped into a pond. The inner circle is strong but now wide and yet as the circle widens the strength weakens.
I can’t handle scotch. I think I’d prefer another drink.
But, eh, I agree with you. The idea of having those sorts of fellas would be nice. I don’t have anything like that here…
Sure! I’ll drink with ya. Bring it..haha
*So many alcoholics on Xanga. LOL
several points:
1) poor sod having to move to the US (cringes)
2) Will and I did try to organize a Toronto Xangas pub night several years ago and I’d be keen to try again
3) I have one scotch a year – on Xmas eve with my papa; but I’m happy to meet for a beer
I KNOW that I have more friends on xanga than in real life here. I would love to meet you sometime Matt. May be you should organize a xanga meet in Toronto.
I don’t know what I am doing here, when you are looking for male company. But, heh, what the heck, I love to be with friends. No Scotch or cigar for me, but I can bring some hot indian appetizers!!
Hey I’ve never smoked much. One puff of a cigarette. Hated it. A few good cigars. Do like Scotch. My poison of choice. If we are ever in the same proximity, I’d enjoy a bottle of the Glnenrothes with you. Take care of yourself, my friend.
I want scotch plzkthx
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too bad I don’t smoke nor drink……..Iced Tea plese…
@ZenPaper - are you still tumbling in tumblr?
@yang1815 - isn’t Thailand closer? hee hee….
@Fatcat723 - I got to keep dumping more stones into the pond then. Or will that simply create more turbulence?
@secade - I don’t know what it is… maybe I need more male bonding? I think it’s the idea of meeting a bunch of folks on a regular basis to share how things are going. Maybe we can have Soju, sake, beer, gin and tonics…
@oxyGENE_08 - I will need extra liquor if you drop by. hahaha
@ZSA_MD - hot Indian appetizers! Whoo… I’ll need milk and ice to cool my mouth down. As for organizing something, I’m one of the most disorganized organizers around. I think it’s Steve that got that idea going.
@Toro69 - my dad taught me how to drink Scotch. He likes it with just a bit of water. I don’t know a lot about it Scotch but I do like the complex taste and aroma. I’ll have to check out Glenrothes.
@AppsScraps - oh wow, I do remember that get together you and Will were planning. I’d be hard pressed to stay anonymous if I attended one of those Xanga meets. I may have to wear a disguise.
@pika_whoosh - hahahaha…. it’s not gonna help your schooling.
@agmhkg - sure… Long Island Ice Tea.
Wow, you certainly opened a Pandora’s box there, Matt. Let’s see what J thinks about what is quickly turning into a rally for a Toronto meet-up. Ha ha!
In all seriousness, a circle of close (real life) friends are something I’ve not really had in a long time, at least since I left SF. The friends are still there, but not in a “let’s get together and hang out” sort of way.
@ElusiveWords - How’s Thailand closer than the U.S. from Toronto?
@ElusiveWords - Well, I think a lot of gays seem to forget that we need good, solid bonding with other men. We need it outside of our partner, too, and it can do us a lot of good to find it, I think
Scotch… you’ve said the magic word.
It’s a shame really you’re not in new york as I do this with friends often especially during the summer. Scotch (or rum or beer or wine, but usually scotch is in my flask) cigars and laughs with the boys, though with my friends, it’s just an endless barrage of insults and jokes at each others’ expense. Lots of laughs really. You could consider cigar or even pipe smoking, and find a local tobacconist. The better places will have a few comfortable chairs with a stable of regulars. People tend to be very friendly at cigar shops. There’s this great place down in soho in nyc called circa tabac. Art deco interior, not too bright, not too dark. It’s a bar, and you can smoke either cigarettes or cigars to your heart’s content.
A word about cigar smoking though. The smell clings to your clothing like crazy. Still worth it imo.
I’d pass out too quickly to be much fun
I will drink with you whenever you want! And as for friends… I’m sure a lot of people love you- especially since you’re such a sweetheart… so you should just go out more when they’re hosting stuff :]
@christao408 - yeah, I’m not sure how this morphed into a meet-up. I mean, I’ll have to wear a mask or something…
@yang1815 - uhm… if I fly east?
@secade - that’s so true. Each of our journey is complicated and often difficult. I think a group like this can be very beneficial.
@supanamja - that sounds like what happens when my brother and I get together with one of our cousins. The insults and laughter are just endless.
@AzureRecollections - lol… you can skip the drinks.
@Devilzgaysianboi - a sweetheart? Thanks…. but there are days when I’m anything but a sweetheart.
Hah. Charlie Sheen, that poor chap. Ricky Gervais’s insults still sting even my own botched sense of humor.
@ElusiveWords - What the… That totally doesn’t make sense.
I’ve never had scotch. Haha. But since you’re offering, why not!
i think it’s safe to say that you’re not alone and that most of us have a much bigger circle of friends here on xanga than in the real world. having lots of friends is not a difficult thing to do but having friends whom you can confide in on a more personal level like we would do here on xanga… well, sometimes it’s always easier when you don’t have to do it eye to eye.
@bengozen - free booze … works all the time. hahaha….
@rudyhou - yeah, you said it. I don’t think a lot of folks will understand how easy it is to share some of our deepest thoughts with strangers. I do think though if the “gang” here ever get together, it will be relatively easier to break the ice.